Be kind and be liked :
- Show interest :
- Show interest in what they are doing without annoying them .
- Talk in terms of their interest .
- Ask questions .
- Keep a curious eye .
- Give importance :
- Appriciate what they do and importance of their role .
- Remember birthdays, name and personal information .
- Seek advice, opinion .
- Offer help, gift .
- Do something for the person .
- Don't do these :
- Give advice, opinion if not asked .
- Criticize, judge .
- Try to be smart .
- Seek appriciation .
- Order around .
- Directly say 'You are wrong' .
- Keep a smiling face .
- Save their dignity, never humiliate or fool them even as a fun .
- Never give direct compliment. No one likes fake praise .
Handle disagreement like a pro :
Basics of effortless persuasion :
- Never order anyone . Instead make a request with a question .
- Make them happy about doing the things you want them to do . Make them want to do it .
- Praise what you like in a person no matter how small . What you don't like will disappear without getting any attention and what you like will develop further .
- Praise and use the word "AND" then say "If you did that too it'd be great". Never use "BUT" in middle .
- Make them talk a lot . People like to talk about accomplishment, problems, expertise, childhood, family, travels etc . Listen attentively and encourage them to talk more . After that, they will do things for you .
- Get the person saying "Yes yes" immediately . That way it will be harder for them to say "No" later .
- "It will be better if that happens. What do you think? What can be done ?" This is how you plant suggestion with a question and let the idea come from them . Always let them think it's their idea .
- "A ('insert an adjective') person would do this . And i think you are an ('insert that adjective') person " . This is called appealing to the nobler motives . Similarly it also gives the person a reputation to live up to .
- Talk about your fault first and then gently tell them about a fault in them and say it's very easy to overcome it .
- Do something dramatic to get attention and try to dramatise your idea .
- Challenge them to do something you want them to do . Use "Can you do it please ?" instead of "Will you do it please ?" .